Deciding which memory care community is best for your loved one may feel daunting. With so much variation in facility amenities, staffing, and activities, you may be unsure about how to find a memory care facility to fit your family member’s needs.
We asked two dementia care experts for tips on how to compare memory care facilities, and we created a memory care checklist to help you ensure your loved one is safe, happy, and well cared for.
Finding a memory care facility starts with identifying and prioritizing your loved one’s needs.
For example, does your parent need help with activities of daily living (ADLs), like dressing, bathing, or eating? If so, when you’re completing a memory care assessment, it’s important to understand how memory care staff members will assist them throughout the day and night.
Or, if your loved one has diabetes or other chronic health conditions that require regular medication or injections, you’ll want to learn how staff can monitor their health needs adequately.
Start by asking yourself these questions:
If your loved one has severe health concerns that require 24-hour supervised nursing care, a memory care community may not be the right fit. A nursing home may be able to better provide for their needs, according to the National Institute on Aging.
If your loved one needs skilled nursing or long-term care, memory questions may vary:
Memory care communities offer a variety of amenities, from meals that cater to specific diets to care coordination and concierge services. When reviewing your memory care checklist, consider your loved one’s needs and interests to determine which features are most important.
Ask a staff member or tour guide:
“Dementia care can be complicated,” says Juliet Holt Klinger, a gerontologist and Brookdale’s senior director of dementia care. “You want to look for a history of providing this type of care and learning over time.”
Finding out how staff handle difficult dementia behaviors — such as resisting care, anger, and aggression — is one way to determine whether a community’s understanding of dementia care is up to date.
“Behavioral expressions are responses to dementia symptoms, not symptoms themselves,” Holt Klinger says. “There’s often an unmet need or a need for a better approach by a care partner. With appropriate dementia care, you’ll see a reduction in these responses.”
Ask how care providers help when someone with dementia is in distress and how difficult dementia behaviors are prevented in the community.
It’s also important to know which questions to ask a memory care facility about community staff experience, says Jill Lorentz, certified dementia trainer and owner of Summit Resilience Training, a dementia education services company in Denver.
“Look at the longevity of staff working there, and assess whether they’re willing to learn about your loved one,” Lorentz says. “Find caregivers who see your loved one as a person, not their disease. You want someone to help them thrive, not just survive.”
One of the simplest ways to learn about staff members’ care and involvement is to find out how well they know those they care for. Ask how the community leans on residents’ history to better communicate with and care for individuals.
Questions to assess staff interaction include:
Training requirements for memory care staff vary by state. Ask the community what kind of training or certification is required, and whether nurses and aides receive ongoing training. In some communities, all staff members — including housekeepers and kitchen employees — receive dementia care training. This training not only can improve community safety but also can help reduce staff turnover, according to McKnights Long-Term Care News.
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When you’re finding a memory care facility, ask these questions to gauge staff expertise and preparedness:
Safety is a top concern for families seeking dementia care. From motion-sensor technology in apartments to secured windows and doors with keypads, memory care communities generally incorporate a variety of safety technology and features. Memory care safety measures and protocols are especially important to prevent wandering, a common but potentially dangerous behavior in people with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease.
Top safety features in memory care communities include:
When touring a memory care community, ask these questions about their safety setup:
Be sure to also add these in-room features to your memory care checklist:
Many memory care facilities offer person-centered dementia care by understanding residents’ preferences, past experiences, abilities, and care needs. In addition to an initial memory care assessment, staff take time to develop a relationship with seniors and their families. The care team then develops a personalized dementia care plan that meets the resident’s unique needs while supporting their health and well-being.
“It’s important to ask about care plans,” Lorentz says. “Find out who is involved — nurses, family members, executive directors, or others — and how often care plans are reviewed.” Because dementia is often progressive, care plans need to be evaluated regularly.
When finding a memory care facility, ask how staff evaluate and manage changes in care plans as a resident’s health declines. Ideally, care plans should be assessed every two to three months or more, depending on your loved one’s health.
“It’s unacceptable for reviews to be done every six months,” Lorentz says.
When learning about memory care plans, you may want to ask these questions:
Tailored therapies or treatments may help improve quality of life and delay cognitive decline in people with dementia and other associated health conditions.
For example, light therapy may be used to treat depression or improve symptoms of sundown syndrome, a behavior shift that worsens confusion and increases agitation in people with dementia during the transition from daylight to darkness.
Ask what memory-enhancing therapies are available at the community and how they can specifically help your loved one.
When finding a memory care facility, ask if the community offers these therapies:
Find out how communities engage with residents through both scheduled and free-time activities, Lorentz says. Person-centered care includes customized memory care activities that enhance a resident’s experience, giving them purpose and enjoyment.
“Make sure the community has activities that fit your loved one’s specific interests or needs,” adds Lorentz. “Don’t be distracted by aesthetics or bells and whistles. Make sure the staff’s priority is getting to know your loved one.”
Lorentz recommends paying attention to details when reviewing the community’s calendar of activities. Are the offered programs passive, or do they offer real opportunities for the residents to engage?
“It’s nice to have a memory care community that looks nice. But I think people forget to consider, ‘what’s my mom or dad going to be doing all day?’” Holt Klinger says.
Memory care activities may include:
In addition to scheduled activities, many memory care communities have open engagement areas residents can use when they want to be productive or replicate tasks from their past day-to-day life.
“Look for a community that incorporates real objects, such as a real garden versus fake plants,” Holt Klinger says.
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Engagement areas, sometimes called life skill stations, in memory care may include:
Memory care facilities tend to look and feel more homelike than other senior living options. Memory care features unique layouts that include easy-to-navigate floor plans and other environmental design factors to help orient residents, minimize confusion, and prevent wandering.
When you visit a memory care community, ask about these design and building elements:
When finding a memory care facility, look for these additional building features:
Cost is a major consideration when you’re choosing a memory care community. The median monthly cost of memory care was $5,430 in 2021, according to A Place for Mom’s most recent community survey. Plus, the cost of care is projected to continue increasing by nearly 4.5% a year, according to Genworth Financial.
Many factors affect the cost of memory care, including location, amenities, and level of care provided. It’s important to understand what’s included in monthly fees, and what happens if your loved one’s needs change.
Ask these questions when evaluating costs for a memory care facility:
No matter how much information you gather, it’s always a good idea to trust your instincts.
After touring a memory care community, ask yourself:
Finding a memory care facility doesn’t have to be an overwhelming experience. If you need guidance looking for memory care near you, contact our Senior Living Advisors. A Place for Mom’s free, local senior living experts can help you assess each community to learn about services, amenities, personalized activities, safety features, and more.
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National Institute on Aging (2017, May 18). Finding long-term care for a person with Alzheimer’s.
McKnights. (2021, December 3). Dementia care training can lessen staffing woes.
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