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How to Find a Memory Care Facility: A Helpful 11-Step Needs Assessment Memory Care Checklist

Written by Merritt Whitley
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16 minute readLast updated October 10, 2022

Deciding which memory care community is best for your loved one may feel daunting. With so much variation in facility amenities, staffing, and activities, you may be unsure about how to find a memory care facility to fit your family member’s needs.

Key Takeaways

  1. Before looking for facilities, evaluate your loved one's needs. Knowing your loved one's unique needs will help you determine if a community can provide the right level of care.
  2. It's important to understand memory care services and amenities. By understanding all that memory care has to offer, you can determine which community features are important to your loved one.
  3. Take cost into consideration. Location, amenities, and level of care provided can all affect the cost of memory care.
  4. There are ways to narrow your search and find the best fit. Our free assessment can help you find care options that fit your loved one’s needs and budget.
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We asked two dementia care experts for tips on how to compare memory care facilities, and we created a memory care checklist to help you ensure your loved one is safe, happy, and well cared for.

Tip #1. Know your loved one’s needs and priorities

Finding a memory care facility starts with identifying and prioritizing your loved one’s needs.

For example, does your parent need help with activities of daily living (ADLs), like dressing, bathing, or eating? If so, when you’re completing a memory care assessment, it’s important to understand how memory care staff members will assist them throughout the day and night.

Or, if your loved one has diabetes or other chronic health conditions that require regular medication or injections, you’ll want to learn how staff can monitor their health needs adequately.

Start by asking yourself these questions:

  • Does my loved one show aggression or other difficult behaviors, like anger and agitation?
  • Does my family member wander, get lost, or seek exits frequently?
  • Is mobility a concern? Can my loved one walk independently, or do they require a walker or wheelchair?
  • Does my loved one require 24-hour supervision?
  • Does my parent need help using the bathroom?
  • Does my family member need ongoing medical attention or treatments, such as dialysis, diabetes management, or colostomy care?

If your loved one has severe health concerns that require 24-hour supervised nursing care, a memory care community may not be the right fit. A nursing home may be able to better provide for their needs, according to the National Institute on Aging.

If your loved one needs skilled nursing or long-term care, memory questions may vary:

  • Do they need constant medical care rather than shorter daily or weekly visits?
  • Are they generally in bed, without the ability to move independently?
  • Are they able to feed themselves with assistance, or do they require a feeding tube?

Tip #2. Understand memory care amenities and features

Memory care communities offer a variety of amenities, from meals that cater to specific diets to care coordination and concierge services. When reviewing your memory care checklist, consider your loved one’s needs and interests to determine which features are most important.

Ask a staff member or tour guide:

  • What types of accommodations are available? Living arrangements can vary from memory care cottages to shared apartments.
  • How many meals or snacks are provided each day?
  • How are meals served? Are escorts to meals available in case your loved one needs help eating?
  • Are fitness and wellness programs offered?
  • What enrichment activities and memory-enhancing programs are available?

Tip #3. Ask whether staff members understand how to care for people with dementia

“Dementia care can be complicated,” says Juliet Holt Klinger, a gerontologist and Brookdale’s senior director of dementia care. “You want to look for a history of providing this type of care and learning over time.”

Finding out how staff handle difficult dementia behaviors — such as resisting care, anger, and aggression — is one way to determine whether a community’s understanding of dementia care is up to date.

“Behavioral expressions are responses to dementia symptoms, not symptoms themselves,” Holt Klinger says. “There’s often an unmet need or a need for a better approach by a care partner. With appropriate dementia care, you’ll see a reduction in these responses.”

Ask how care providers help when someone with dementia is in distress and how difficult dementia behaviors are prevented in the community.

It’s also important to know which questions to ask a memory care facility about community staff experience, says Jill Lorentz, certified dementia trainer and owner of Summit Resilience Training, a dementia education services company in Denver.

“Look at the longevity of staff working there, and assess whether they’re willing to learn about your loved one,” Lorentz says. “Find caregivers who see your loved one as a person, not their disease. You want someone to help them thrive, not just survive.”

One of the simplest ways to learn about staff members’ care and involvement is to find out how well they know those they care for. Ask how the community leans on residents’ history to better communicate with and care for individuals.

Questions to assess staff interaction include:

  • How are staff in dementia care trained differently than those in assisted living?
  • What type of dementia techniques do staff use?
  • Is a resident assigned to the same staff members every day?
  • How do staff members care for residents who are physically aggressive or those who exhibit disruptive behaviors?

Training requirements for memory care staff vary by state. Ask the community what kind of training or certification is required, and whether nurses and aides receive ongoing training. In some communities, all staff members — including housekeepers and kitchen employees — receive dementia care training. This training not only can improve community safety but also can help reduce staff turnover, according to McKnights Long-Term Care News.

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When you’re finding a memory care facility, ask these questions to gauge staff expertise and preparedness:

  • Are your facility and staff accredited?
  • Are any staff members certified dementia care managers (CDCMs)?
  • How regularly do staff members receive training?

Tip #4. Find a memory care facility that prioritizes safety

Safety is a top concern for families seeking dementia care. From motion-sensor technology in apartments to secured windows and doors with keypads, memory care communities generally incorporate a variety of safety technology and features. Memory care safety measures and protocols are especially important to prevent wandering, a common but potentially dangerous behavior in people with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease.

Top safety features in memory care communities include:

  • 24-hour supervised care
  • Emergency alert systems
  • Keypad entry
  • Alarms on emergency exits
  • Interior courtyards for secure wandering

When touring a memory care community, ask these questions about their safety setup:

  • Are the buildings and grounds secured?
  • Are there emergency alert systems, enclosed courtyards, and safety locks on outdoor fences?
  • Are hallways color-coded to help residents navigate the facility?
  • Is a nurse on duty 24-hours a day? If not, what are the nurses’ hours?
  • Is there a visiting physician? How easy is it to seek medical help if needed?
  • What medical services are available?
  • What is the staff-to-resident ratio during the day? What about at night?

Be sure to also add these in-room features to your memory care checklist:

  • Automatic lights in the bathrooms
  • Low grab bars or handrails to improve stability
  • Emergency call buttons

Tip #5. Understand memory care assessments and care plans

Many memory care facilities offer person-centered dementia care by understanding residents’ preferences, past experiences, abilities, and care needs. In addition to an initial memory care assessment, staff take time to develop a relationship with seniors and their families. The care team then develops a personalized dementia care plan that meets the resident’s unique needs while supporting their health and well-being.

“It’s important to ask about care plans,” Lorentz says. “Find out who is involved — nurses, family members, executive directors, or others — and how often care plans are reviewed.” Because dementia is often progressive, care plans need to be evaluated regularly.

When finding a memory care facility, ask how staff evaluate and manage changes in care plans as a resident’s health declines. Ideally, care plans should be assessed every two to three months or more, depending on your loved one’s health.

“It’s unacceptable for reviews to be done every six months,” Lorentz says.

When learning about memory care plans, you may want to ask these questions:

  • Does each resident have an individual care plan?
  • How are care plans developed?
  • Who’s involved in developing a resident’s care plan?
  • How often are care plans evaluated?
  • Are residents grouped by cognitive level?

Tip #6. Know what memory-enhancing therapies and activities are available

Tailored therapies or treatments may help improve quality of life and delay cognitive decline in people with dementia and other associated health conditions.

For example, light therapy may be used to treat depression or improve symptoms of sundown syndrome, a behavior shift that worsens confusion and increases agitation in people with dementia during the transition from daylight to darkness.

Ask what memory-enhancing therapies are available at the community and how they can specifically help your loved one.

When finding a memory care facility, ask if the community offers these therapies:

  • Art therapy, which may stimulate the brain, improve communication, and boost self-expression
  • Music therapy, which can elevate mood, improve overall wellness, and generate memory retrieval
  • Aromatherapy, which uses soothing scents like lavender to relieve anxiety and agitation while promoting better sleep, or energizing scents like citrus to promote activity
  • Occupational therapy, which can help loved ones with dementia retain life skills from eating independently to dressing themselves

Tip #7. Learn how memory care activities are tailored to residents’ interests

Find out how communities engage with residents through both scheduled and free-time activities, Lorentz says. Person-centered care includes customized memory care activities that enhance a resident’s experience, giving them purpose and enjoyment.

“Make sure the community has activities that fit your loved one’s specific interests or needs,” adds Lorentz. “Don’t be distracted by aesthetics or bells and whistles. Make sure the staff’s priority is getting to know your loved one.”

Lorentz recommends paying attention to details when reviewing the community’s calendar of activities. Are the offered programs passive, or do they offer real opportunities for the residents to engage?

“It’s nice to have a memory care community that looks nice. But I think people forget to consider, ‘what’s my mom or dad going to be doing all day?’” Holt Klinger says.

Memory care activities may include:

  • Puzzles and board games
  • Music programs and singalongs
  • Sensory and tactile stimulation
  • Pet visits
  • Gardening
  • Painting
  • Cooking
  • Going on outings to parks or community events

In addition to scheduled activities, many memory care communities have open engagement areas residents can use when they want to be productive or replicate tasks from their past day-to-day life.

“Look for a community that incorporates real objects, such as a real garden versus fake plants,” Holt Klinger says.

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Engagement areas, sometimes called life skill stations, in memory care may include:

  • A clerical area with a desk and functional adding machine and/or typewriter
  • A kitchen with an oven for supervised cooking
  • A garden with real plants and dirt

Tip #8. Examine the building’s layout for helpful design elements

Memory care facilities tend to look and feel more homelike than other senior living options. Memory care features unique layouts that include easy-to-navigate floor plans and other environmental design factors to help orient residents, minimize confusion, and prevent wandering.

When you visit a memory care community, ask about these design and building elements:

  • Color-coded hallways
  • Shorter, less repetitive hallways
  • Soundproof walls
  • Personalized picture frames and room doors

When finding a memory care facility, look for these additional building features:

  • Mobility assistance. Is the building equipped to assist residents on wheelchairs safely and comfortably? Some communities have sit-to-stand lifts, elevators, zero-threshold showers, and other assistive features.
  • Fall prevention. Falls are the leading cause of both fatal and non-fatal injuries in people over 65, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Look for wider doors with handrails to provide stability. Pay attention to flooring, as well — hard floors help seniors maintain balance.
  • Therapy gardens. Green spaces and healing gardens are commonly found in memory care communities. Such spaces may reduce feelings of isolation, agitation, depression, and aggression, according to the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health.

Tip #9. Know how to find a memory care facility that fits your budget

Cost is a major consideration when you’re choosing a memory care community. The median monthly cost of memory care was $5,430 in 2021, according to A Place for Mom’s most recent community survey. Plus, the cost of care is projected to continue increasing by nearly 4.5% a year, according to Genworth Financial.

Many factors affect the cost of memory care, including location, amenities, and level of care provided. It’s important to understand what’s included in monthly fees, and what happens if your loved one’s needs change.

Ask these questions when evaluating costs for a memory care facility:

  • How are monthly fees determined? What is the cost structure? Is there a flat fee, or are services provided a la carte?
  • What memory care assessment is performed before admission?
  • What is included in the monthly fee? What types of services aren’t provided?
  • Are there additional fees, such as an entry fee or deposit?
  • Do prices increase annually? What’s the maximum increase?
  • Are there any move-in incentives or specials?

Tip #10. Know what final questions to ask a memory care facility, and trust your instincts

No matter how much information you gather, it’s always a good idea to trust your instincts.

After touring a memory care community, ask yourself:

  • Do staff appear knowledgeable and caring?
  • Do residents seem happy and well-cared for?
  • Does the community feel safe?
  • Does their philosophy of care resonate with you?
  • Would you feel comfortable and at peace if your loved one lived there?

Take APFM’s memory care checklist with you

Ultimately, there’s no substitute for touring a community in person or virtually. Print our memory care checklist to guide your search and help with your assessment for a memory care facility.

Finding a memory care facility doesn’t have to be an overwhelming experience. If you need guidance looking for memory care near you, contact our Senior Living Advisors. A Place for Mom’s free, local senior living experts can help you assess each community to learn about services, amenities, personalized activities, safety features, and more.


Basso, A., Borella, E., Cavalli, R., Melendugno, A., Meneghetti, C., Murroni, V., & Pazzaglia, F. (2021, September 18). Effectiveness of therapeutic gardens for people with dementia: A systematic reviewInternational Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health18(18).

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Older adult fall prevention.

Genworth Financial. (2022, February 7). Cost of care trends and insights.

National Institute on Aging (2017, May 18). Finding long-term care for a person with Alzheimer’s.

McKnights. (2021, December 3). Dementia care training can lessen staffing woes.

Meet the Author
Merritt Whitley

Merritt Whitley is a creative copywriter at A Place for Mom. She has written for senior audiences for about six years and specializes in health, finance, and lifestyle content. Merritt has managed multiple print publications, social media channels, and blogs. She earned a bachelor’s degree from Eastern Illinois University, where she focused on journalism, advertising, and public relations.

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