Last Updated: April 2, 2013
I have the right…to take care of myself. This
is not an act of selfishness. It will give me the capability of
taking better care of my relative.
I have the right…to seek help from others even
though my relatives may object. I recognize the limits of my own
endurance and strength.
I have the right…to maintain facets of my own
life that do not include the person I care for, just as I would if
he or she were healthy. I know that I do everything that I
reasonably can for this person, and I have the right to do some
things just for myself.
I have the right…to get angry, be depressed,
and express other difficult feelings occasionally.
I have the right… to reject any attempts by my
relative (either conscious or unconscious) to manipulate me through
I have the right…to receive consideration,
affection, forgiveness, and acceptance from my loved one for what I
do, for as long as I offer these qualities in return.
I have the right…to take pride in what I am
accomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken to
meet the needs of my relative.
I have the right…to protect my individuality
and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the
time when my relative no longer needs my full-time help.
I have the right…to expect and demand that as
new strides are made in finding resources to aid physically and
mentally impaired persons in our country, similar strides will be
made towards aiding and supporting caregivers.
Adapted from the book, CareGiving: Helping an Aging Loved One,
by Jo Horne, published in
1985 by the American Association of Retired Persons.