Many employers admit that they would be willing to offer caregiving support services, if only they were aware of the need. The National Alliance for Caregiving estimates that half of working caregivers are reluctant to tell their supervisor about their caregiving responsibilities.
More than 15% of the American workforce are family caregivers, and these caregiver employees need extra support to balance their work and caregiving responsibilities. The MetLife Study of Caregivingreports that caregivers who leave work lose an average of $304,000 in benefits and wages over their lifetime.
According to the National Alliance for Caregiving, caregivers who don’t receive support from employers experience a negative impact on their careers. In fact:
Nancy Rubin, head of human resources for the Motion Picture & Television Fund, found herself caring for her aging mother. She told Forbes that stepping into this new role opened her eyes to the plight that was befalling other employees.
“I listen to the problems and issues of our employees all day, spending most of my time searching for solutions, and then I come home at night and do it all over again with my mom… Because our CEO helps care for his mother-in-law, he really understands and is empathetic to the challenges caregivers face.”
Rubin is fortunate. Not all employees offer a supportive environment for caregivers. This lack of support is not always due to a lack of compassion, however. According to human resources expert Zachary T. Abraham, Principal of AlignHR, LLC, caregiving support services are not usually an add-on feature to Employee Assistance Plans (EAPs) and in order to provide elder care support services many human resource departments must choose to eliminate another service.
Some employers would be willing to offer caregiving support services, if they were aware that there was a need. But many aren’t.
In fact, 50% of working caregivers are reluctant to tell their supervisor about their caregiving responsibilities.
This communication breakdown between employees and their employers is contributing to the lack of support in the workplace. Some employers report caregiving resources and services are available for staff, but are underutilized because workers are afraid to admit they are a family caregiver. When employees don’t take advantage of these caregiving services, human resource departments feel there is no need to keep them.
When Rubin opened up about her situation to her boss and colleagues she found the support she needed, telling Forbes that it was like a heavy boulder was lifted off her shoulders.
“The culture of care at work really makes me feel that I don’t have to hide anything from my employer and colleagues, which in turn makes me more loyal, dedicated and present in my job,” she said.
Caregiver employees need to learn to ask for help from family, friends and employers in order to avoid caregiver burnout and the other negative consequences associated with caring for an elderly family member. If your employer offers a supportive culture then don’t be afraid to open up to them about your situation and ask if they can offer support. Even if they don’t have a formal program in place for caregivers they may be understanding and able to help in other ways.
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MetLife Mature Market Institute. “The MetLife Study of Caregiving: Costs to Work Caregivers: Double Jeopardy for Baby Boomers Caring for Their Parents.” Westport, CT. MetLife Mature Market Institute. 2011). National Alliance for Caregiving in Cooperation with AARP Caregiving in the US Executive Summary. Funded by MetLife Foundation. November 2009. Pdf.
Snelling, Sherri. “Caregiving is a Corporate Issue.” Forbes. March 27, 2014. Online: http://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2014/03/27/caregiving-is-a-corporate-issue/#39850a647022
Interview on Monday, April 4 with Zachary T. Abraham, MSIR, SPHR, AlignHR, LLC, LLC
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