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5 Hidden Costs of Becoming a Family Caregiver

8 minute readLast updated April 20, 2021
Written by Danny Szlauderbach

When a parent or aging relative begins to need help with activities of daily living (ADLs), such as bathing, dressing, and eating, you may decide to take on becoming a personal caregiver. At first, it may seem natural, convenient, and logical to care for a parent on your own. But family caregiving can become overwhelming quickly, both emotionally and financially.

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Family caregivers spend about 20% of their income on caregiver costs, according to a 2020 report by AARP. Before you choose to be a caregiver for a family member, it’s important to understand the financial realities of caring for a parent — especially the unexpected costs. Learn more about surprising caregiving costs, plus ways to reduce expenses.

5 family caregiver costs you may be unaware of

Family caregiving often begins with a sense of duty and love. Your commitment to your elderly parent or relative is admirable and shouldn’t be minimized, but remembering to value your own needs is essential.

“Family caregivers sacrifice their own lives for a loved one,” says Donna Talerico, a Senior Living Advisor with A Place for Mom who cared for her elderly mother. “Some postpone medical appointments and procedures for themselves, and some stop going out because they either can’t leave or their loved one is fearful they may not come back. They stay put to reduce risk.”

Here are five hidden costs of caregiving for a parent or relative that may help you prepare for your new role and find a healthy balance.

1. Loss of income and job security

Family caregivers frequently have to leave their jobs, reduce work hours, or retire early. About 70% of working caregivers suffer work-related difficulties due to their dual roles, according to The Family Caregiver Alliance. Sandwich generation caregivers — those who take care of elderly parents at home while raising children — often experience even more difficulty balancing a career with family caregiving responsibilities.

“Personal caregivers who leave work or lose a job or career to care for a loved one may find it hard to reenter the workforce when they can again,” Talerico says. As more baby boomers age into retirement, the demands of caregiving placed on their children increase, leading to higher rates of unemployment and underemployment for family caregivers.

Some work-related consequences of caregiving include:

  • Lost benefits, like health insurance and retirement savings
  • Taking extended time off, often unpaid
  • Fewer opportunities for promotion
  • Decreased job security

2. Increased personal health care costs

Family caregivers often experience increased physical and emotional strains as a result of caregiving, according to the AARP report. Many people acting as caregivers for a parent or relative say they feel alone, and about 40% report caregiving is highly stressful.

These unforeseen negative health effects of caregiving are damaging and costly. Stress and depression can lead to long-term mental health concerns, while the physical demands of family caregiving can raise blood pressure and subsequently increase the risk of chronic conditions.

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Those who act as caregivers for family members with dementia report even higher levels of strain, mental and physical health problems, and caregiver burnout, according to a study of 1,500 family caregivers published in The Gerontologist. Dementia caregiver health risks include increased mortality, elevated rates of chronic illnesses, and severe isolation.

Increased health care costs that may result from the stress of family caregiving can lead to financial strain. For those who’ve lost their health insurance or put their career on hold, these new medical expenses are particularly hard to bear.

3. Lost savings and retirement

A family caregiver may incur out-of-pocket expenses that add up quickly. Extra expenses can include:

  • Groceries and household supplies
  • Higher utility bills
  • Medical needs, such as prescription medication and bandages
  • Accessibility devices, including hearing aids, wheelchairs, and walkers
  • Clothing and personal care items, like incontinence supplies
  • Transportation-related costs such as gas and new tires
  • Senior center or adult daycare membership fees, if needed

Extra costs may cause caregivers to dip into savings. Twenty-two percent of caregivers report using all their short-term savings, while twelve percent say they went through all their long-term savings while taking care of elderly parents at home, according to the AARP report.

Some effects of these increased costs for personal caregivers include:

  • Having to borrow money from family or friends
  • Leaving bills unpaid or increasing credit card debt
  • Selling possessions
  • Downsizing to a smaller home or apartment

Naturally, caregivers who’ve stopped working altogether have an even harder time maintaining their savings and retirement funds. Leaving the workforce can also reduce social security and pension benefits.

4. Home modifications

Senior home safety and accessibility are major concerns when taking care of elderly parents at home. While these home improvement projects may be expensive, preventing injuries and reducing fall risks could save thousands of dollars in medical costs.

Home modifications may include:

  • Chair lifts and grab bars
  • Alarm systems and safety locks on doors
  • Wheelchair ramps
  • Inspections for fire hazards
  • Technology like alert devices and GPS tracking

5. Emotional costs

Some costs of caregiving go beyond financial impact. Like personal health, relationships can suffer from the strain of caring for an elderly parent at home. As family caregivers devote more of their time and energy to caring for their elderly loved one, they may begin to feel frustrated — especially if they experience any of the unexpected costs described above.

“Some caregivers have feelings of anger, resentment, and then guilt in having those feelings toward the very loved one they care for,” Talerico says. “They may have similar feelings toward siblings not pitching in but giving lots of directives from afar.”

These feelings not only have a personal impact,  they can also lead to expenses such as therapy sessions or hiring a mediator to resolve family disputes.

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The bright side of family caregiving

While these lesser-known expenses may make family caregiving seem daunting, helping a loved one in their time of need can be tremendously rewarding. About half of family caregivers say they feel a new sense of purpose and meaning, according to the AARP study.

“A cost can be a good thing too,” Talerico says. “It’s what you sacrificed to help someone you love, and it’s doing the best you can with what you have and not having regrets.”

Extra time spent with an aging loved one is invaluable. The bonding opportunity created by family caregiving — both for children and grandchildren — is a priceless benefit of taking care of elderly parents at home.

3 ways to reduce family caregiver costs

With the right tools, you can minimize caregiving costs. Consider these three ways to reduce the cost of caregiving while best supporting your elderly loved one.

  1. Be prepared. Preparation is perhaps the most important way to offset the less obvious costs of family caregiving. By tackling this potential obstacle early and knowing what you’re up against, you’ll increase your chances of providing affordable, fulfilling care to your loved one. Having conversations about caregiving costs with your relatives in advance can prevent family disputes down the line. Establishing power of attorney for your elderly parent can also simplify future transitions if care needs increase.
  2. Invest in technology. New technology, like home alert systems and personal safety alarms, may help prevent injuries and costly hospital visits. Smartphones and tablets also allow seniors to stay occupied, connect with friends and family, and communicate with doctors via telehealth appointments, limiting the need for transportation.
  3. Look into family caregiver pay. Under the right circumstances, it may be possible to gain employment as a paid family caregiver. Some state governments have passed laws supporting family caregivers with payment programs and paid leaves of absence from work. California, New Jersey, New York, Rhode Island, Washington D.C., and Washington state all provide some form of paid family leave, while activists continue to push for family caregiver pay in other states.


AARP. “Caregiving in the US 2020 Report.”

The Gerontologist. “Prevalence and Impact of Caregiving.”

Family Caregiver Alliance. “Caregiver Statistics: Work and Caregiving.”


Meet the Author
Danny Szlauderbach

Danny Szlauderbach is a managing editor at A Place for Mom, where he's written or reviewed more than 250 articles covering a wide range of senior care topics, from veterans benefits and home health services to innovations in memory care. Since 2010, his editing work has spanned several industries, including education, technology, and financial services. He’s a member of ACES: The Society for Editing and earned a degree in journalism from the University of Kansas.

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