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An Expert’s Guide to Grooming and Hygiene for the Elderly

Merritt Whitley
By Merritt WhitleyJuly 2, 2020

Caring for an aging loved one sometimes means assisting with grooming and body hygiene, such as helping them bathe, dress, or brush their teeth. Even though we practice our own personal hygiene every day, helping an aging adult with theirs takes patience, preparation, and skill.

Learn an expert caregiver’s do’s and don’ts to accomplish these essential tasks more easily while maintaining your loved one’s dignity.

First, talk about how to take care of body hygiene

Lack of hygiene is one of the important signs an aging parent needs help with daily living tasks. But relying on others’ help with cleaning or grooming can feel invasive and even humiliating for many seniors.

It’s important to have honest discussions about what they feel comfortable with to relieve stress and create trust, according to Saige Via, a caregiving supervisor for seven years at Chestnut Knoll, a Boyertown, Pennsylvania, assisted living community managed by Heritage Senior Living.

“Providing care to someone is a very personal and private thing. Some people may not want to accept help from you,” Via says. “It’s best to have these kinds of conversations ahead of time.

“It can be scary for seniors to let their personal guard down, but try to understand their expectations, learn their routines, and build trust.”

Saige Via, caregiving supervisor at Chestnut Knoll

Have a conversation with your loved one to learn more about their preferences and abilities. Ask them:

  • Do you prefer a family member to help you?
  • Do you prefer a nurse or caregiver to help you?
  • What activities do you need help with the most?
  • Do you prefer someone of the same or opposite sex to help you shower or shave?
  • Is there anything about help with hygiene that makes you feel uncomfortable?

Incorporate their regular routine

Following your aging parent’s normal routine will help them feel more comfortable and at ease, says Via. If your parent showers or bathes in the morning, for example, continue to maintain their schedule if you can. If they use specific items — like certain washcloths, soaps, or shampoos — keep their favorite items consistent, too.

“There’s no need to add confusion by changing their routine. Try to stick to their normal schedule,” Via says. “You have to remember that you’re entering their space. It’s important to do what you can to make them feel comfortable. It can help you build a better relationship.”

Help elderly loved ones remain independent in daily tasks

How involved you need to be with hygiene-related tasks depends on your loved one’s needs and abilities. Do your best to help them remain in control, says Via.

“I help with shaving, dentures, brushing teeth, and washing faces, and I approach all of these types of care the same way,” she says. “I ask if they need me to get the items ready or physically assist them. Sometimes they just need items laid out. I try to let them do as much as possible to help them feel independent.”

Useful bathing tips for elderly adults

Helping your loved one bathe can feel overwhelming without the right tools and techniques. Follow these tips for a smoother and safer  experience.

Consider bathroom safety accessories

If your elderly parent has poor balance or can’t stand for long periods of time, you may need to make the shower or bathtub more accessible. 

Consider the following to help ensure safer practices for hygiene:

  • Grab bars near toilets and showers
  • Nonslip adhesives on shower floor
  • Shower stool or bath bench
  • Handheld shower sprayer

Adjust bathing frequency

How often should an elderly person bathe? Twice a week is typically sufficient unless accidents occur, according to Via.

“When someone is incontinent, I will give a quick wash and dry when changing them to avoid any skin breakdown from occurring. I also wash them with soap and water thoroughly every night before bed and every morning when they get ready for the day.”

Organize their bathing items

One of the simplest ways to help ensure bathing goes smoothly is to prepare.

“I like to lay residents’ clothes out, gather the soap and wash cloths, and get everything ready before taking them into the bathroom.”

Saige Via, caregiving supervisor at Chestnut Knoll

“It’s important to have everything you need in one spot so you can focus on them.”

Have these basic materials ready before you begin:

  • Sponges
  • Towels
  • Washcloths
  • Shampoo

Liquid soaps make for faster and more efficient bathing. Bar soaps can be slippery and may increase risk of falls. 

Respect your aging parent’s privacy and comfort level

Some seniors may feel more comfortable holding towels around their private areas during bathing. While the towels will need to be worked around to clean those areas, you can develop a routine that works for you and your loved one.

Remember to clean under skin folds

Skin folds are where bacteria grow, so it’s important to clean under every fold and wrinkle, including:

  • Breasts
  • Neck
  • Stomach folds
  • Genitalia

These areas will also need to be dried with a towel to avoid fungal infections. While you’re cleaning your loved one, be sure to rinse away soap completely so their skin doesn’t become too dry or agitated.

Remember skin care

Skin becomes more sensitive with age, so it’s important to pat dry instead of rubbing with a towel. Applying a moisturizer will also help prevent dryness and can even be a bit therapeutic for your senior loved one if you gently massage it into their skin.

The American Academy of Dermatology has additional skin tips for the elderly:

  • Keep baths and showers to around 10 minutes long
  • Use warm water instead of hot water
  • Use a soft cloth for washing
  • Leave a little bit of water on skin before applying moisturizer

Maintain their oral hygiene

Maintaining dental hygiene is important for long-term health. Seniors need to see their dentists every six months or more often, depending on their medical conditions.

Dentures should be checked regularly for proper fit, and gums need to be checked for gum disease or cancer. Via recommends practicing good oral hygiene twice a day: in the morning and before bed.

For seniors who can brush their teeth on their own, Via prepares their toothbrush by putting toothpaste on it. If someone can’t brush their teeth on their own, Via will either guide their hand with hers or brush herself.

The American Dental Association has additional oral hygiene practices for seniors:

  • Using rotating toothbrushes
  • Brushing with high-fluoride toothpaste
  • Using topical fluoride (daily mouth rinses or fluoride varnish applications)
  • Maintaining a healthy diet

Be patient, and don’t be afraid to ask for help

It’s natural to have good and bad days as a caregiver, especially when helping with personal tasks. When you’re feeling frustrated, Via suggests trying to: 

  1. Put yourself in your family member’s shoes
    “It’s a new and sometimes scary experience for them,” she says. “Always be patient, understanding, and communicative.”
  2. Know your limits
    When you’re caring for a family member, there may be times when you need to ask for help. It’s best to learn your personal limits, as well as your family’s limits. Boundaries can help you develop a healthy and functional caregiving dynamic.

“It can be hard to know your limits when caring for a family member. It’s OK to talk to other people, ask for help, or find other strategies.”

Saige Via, caregiving supervisor at Chestnut Knoll

“If your mom won’t shower, take a step back. Maybe someone else can get her to do it, or maybe someone else has an idea to help.”

Find caregiver support near you

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Merritt Whitley
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Merritt Whitley

Merritt Whitely is an editor at A Place for Mom. She developed health content for seniors at Hearing Charities of America and the National Hearing Aid Project. She’s also managed multiple print publications, blogs, and social media channels for seniors as the marketing manager at Sertoma, Inc.

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