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What type of community will allow husband and wife to be together?

My dad has Alzheimer’s and is 84 years old. His wife is in her 70s with no illness or health problems. What type of facility can they live in where they can live together and still provide my dad memory care and his wife a more independent type of lifestyle?

Status: Open    Dec 20, 2016 - 07:37 AM

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Jan 04, 2017 - 12:48 PM

Many facilities that have memory care frequently have accommodations for healthy spouses. Naturally, the extent of memory care required can have an impact on how well this will work. Shop around and ask for this up front. You may be pleasantly surprised to find that it's not an uncommon request. Good Luck!

Jan 09, 2017 - 09:35 AM

Besides home care, there are some other options. Some independent living facilities provide additional care services for one or both spouses who are in need. Additionally, some facilities provide more than one level of care, such as independent living and assisted living/memory care.

I know a couple of people who have utilized similar facilities and were very satisfied with the situation. The one couple shared the same apartment and the care staff came there to provide services. The other couple started out sharing the same apartment, but as the spouse with dementia required more intense care and security, she moved to the memory care unit which was in the same building, so it was easy for the spouse to maintain close contact. With the help of A Place for Mom, I would suggest that you call some of the facilities in your or your parent’s area to see how flexible are their services. Be sure to visit the facilities before you make any final decisions. If your father is able and for sure his wife should also visit the facility before making any final decisions. I wish you well in helping your father and his wife find the situation that works best for them.


Jan 04, 2017 - 09:20 AM

If the wife is healthy there is a good chance home care would be an option instead of moving them to a place where everything is unfamiliar to Dad. Home Instead specializes in Alzheimer's and Dementia care in the home, and could mean freeing the wife up to stay involved and active in the community. Please see my profile page for contact and other helpful information.

Source: http://www.helpforalzheimersfamilies....

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