Dec 10, 2016 - 05:19 PM
It is common among memory loss people to begin asking for their parents or others who have died long, long ago. This happens because the 'memory tapes' are erased backwards and distant memories become the most recent. When an 80 y/o is reminded of the death of their parents they commonly do begin grieving as if the death had just happened. They then begin going through the same painful emotional grief process as anyone UNTIL they forget all over again. Caregivers understand this and work to spare them the terrible pain of the realization of a death and do just as you have described - tell them the dead person is 'away' and will see them tomorrow.
Memory loss people live 100% in the moment. Their entire existence can last only a few minutes at a time until they reboot and have to be oriented all over again. I never saw a need to force somebody into a reality that has no meaning for them anyway. Continue doing whatever you can (telling stories, white lies, etc.) to make your mother comfortable.
Dec 11, 2016 - 04:25 AM