Oct 05, 2016 - 11:11 AM
-express your concern that your father and any other family caregivers have a break from caring for your mom to focus on their own health and well being
-ask him to consider that there are tasks best handled by a professional caregiver such as bathing and toileting, to preserve the family roles as much as possible as well as your mom's dignity
-Let your father have control over the choice of homecare provider and intial schedule
-consider a small number of hours as an introduction to the service such as one 4-hour shift per week. Hopefully your father will see the benefit and be willing to increase hours to meet your mom's needs
-Work with a homecare company that is sensitive to his resistance and will allow a minimal schedule to start (some companies have high minimum hour requirements)
-encourage your father to put the care in place now, so that as your mom's needs increase the decisions about care won't need to be made in a crisis mode
I wish the best to you and your family as you work to arrange the best care for your parents. Working with a reputable homecare company can be a wonderful addition to your mom's life.