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How to tell my mom that she has to give up her cat?

My mom has lived in an independent living retirement community for 7 years. She has progressive dementia, and the director feels it's time for her to move to the memory care section of the community. Aside from her forgetfulness and occasional confusion, she is a very happy person, who loves her cat, and talks about him as an important part of her life more and more. Unfortunately, the memory care section does not allow pets, and the thought of having to tell my mom she will have to give up her cat fills me with dread! I worry this will GREATLY affect her well being and happiness, and don't know the right way to go about it.
Status: Open    Sep 11, 2016 - 01:04 PM


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Sep 15, 2016 - 05:48 AM

My father, who had dementia, found joy in his cat as well. I'd suggest you find another Memory Care community that allows cats!
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By srosspass on Sep 17, 2016 - 05:53 AM | Like (0)  |  Report

My mom lives in assisted living and she has mild dementia. There is a separate building for advanced demtia/Alzheimers. We are glad she can have the cat where she's at now. If she has to move to the other building, she will be at a point where she won't remember to feed the cat ir take care if the litter box.
Anither facility for your mom might work better.
Aldo, if someone else in the building could take the cat, then she might be able to see it frequently if she is mobile and the buildings have common hallways.

By usheroes on Sep 17, 2016 - 08:45 AM | Like (0)  |  Report

I've actually kept my dad in his house because his animals are such good therapy. If it's in the same community, could someone there take the cat and she could visit? My dad 'talks" to his animals and I feel that that keeps his brain engaged. Just my thoughts, but if you have to, at lest find someone to keep the cat for her to visit. That way something will still "belong" to her.

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