Aug 20, 2016 - 11:02 AM
First MediCARE never pays for long term or residental care so whatever happens next year is of no help. MediCADE is the government plan that pays for indigent people but as you are discovering since your mother has some resources she does not seem to meet the definition of being poor enough.
You have two 'children' in your home and the care demands are incredible. I will assume that your mother is in a state such that she can not participate in her own care. Can you 'give her to the state'? Unfortunately no, there is no easy system to do so.
You can try calling Adult Protective Services and tell them that you are unable to provide care for her any longer (which might constitute elder abuse) and perhaps they can begin to get her into the system.
The extreme solution is that if she has a 'medical condition' you can call EMS (911) and have her taken to an emergency room for evaluation. When they finish their evaluation then you refuse to take her back home. You might choose to not even accompany her to the hospital. You can explain to the hospital social worker who will be repeatedly calling you to pick her up that it is impossible for you to care for her any longer. Laws dictate that a hospital cannot discharge a helpless person to the street. They will absolutely hate it but the hospital will have to become involved in placing her into some sort of care facility.
Eventually she will be assigned a government case worker who will become her conservator and make all decisions on her behalf. All her assets will be taken by the government (but it doesnt seem like she has many) You will lose control of the decision making process for her and all choices will then be made by her conservator.
Unfortunately this is an ugly process and involves a lot of agression on your part to force the issue and have her placed in a government paid care situation. It is certainly NOT something you would choose to do if there are any other options. But if it is harming your health (which is common) and your abilty to care for your 4 year old daughter then it may be something you have to consider.