Aug 20, 2016 - 10:26 AM
You say that your sister lives 3000 miles away and visits once a month? This speaks to your sister's concern for her mother. Traveling that far is a huge effort on her part, an effort that must involve air travel. However it is known that the condition of elders can change suddenly and sometimes decisions need to made quickly. Common sense would dictate that it would be good to have somebody who lives locally that can also be involved in her care.
This then begs the bigger questions of why wont the facility discuss your mother's care? Is it because your sister has just never provided the facility with a signature from the POA that allows you to be involved in mom's care? Then ask your sister to please provide one. Has your sister put a statement into her records instructing the facility to not discuss things with you? If this is so, then you need to have a serious talk to your sister. This situation may involve family dynamics more than leagal requirements.