My mother has been in assisted living for several years now. I have moved her couple of times to be closer to me, the most recent because she needed to move to skilled/memory care. My mother had an income that was just above the max allowed by Medicaid. So she did not qualify for any aid. We had the max veterans benefit and a small pension in addition to her SS. While she was living at the first assisted living, she was still in charge of her finances and being a banker that was a big deal to her. Unfortunately, she got involved in all kinds of scams as her mental situation declined, and unknown to me at the time, her bills were not getting paid - I realized when the bank started notifying me of checks bouncing. I tried very hard to get control of her finances and even took the issue to the state attorney general. I even asked the assisted living not to give her the mail because most of the scams were mail related. They started gathering her mail and sending to me (she was in a different state at the time). I realized that we could not afford the assisted living she was in, after several hospitalizations and problems she was having, both from her mental state and her finances. I moved her to be close to me. She was still private pay and I had to start paying almost 1/3 of my income to support her. This went on for nearly 2 years and I am nearly bankrupt. I finally got her approved for Medicaid when I moved her to skilled care recently. The former assisted living has not ceased trying to collect from me. I was told that I would have to pay her bill and I told them I couldn't. I got an attorney and tried to settle with them for a reasonable amount that I could pay, and they refused any settlement. Now they are adding all these penalties and interests to this (it has been since 2014). When she moved in there, I was told I had to sign to get her a spot, as they would not give her a room without a second party signing. They presented a ton of paperwork and I signed for her in several places. I had no experience in this and I failed to read everything in detail....it would have taken hours if I had! In any case, at the time I asked specifically if I would have a financial obligation and they said that it was simply a requirement for me to sign as next of kin and that she would be the responsible party. It appears; however, that I signed something that they said now obligates me to pay. The bill is now something like $22k - when I tried to settle with them 2 years ago, it was $9k. That’s how much they have added due to interest and penalty and I will have to declare bankruptcy if this continues. The last attorney I hired told me she was sure she could help me and get them to remove more than half the expense. I ended up paying the attorney more than my mother actually owed the assisted living at the time, and the attorney accomplished nothing. I cannot afford another attorney. I have cashed in all my savings and 401k to support my mother all this time - in addition I have a disabled brother (only sibling) I have had to help support and a daughter in college to support. I make good money, which I am thankful for, but I feel robbed and at age 63 feel my entire financial future has been destroyed. I love my mother and would do it all again, except for signing anything for her care without reading very carefully. Any advice?