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What can I do with Mom's wallet being misplaced?

Twice in the past week, Mom has inadvertently hidden her wallet. Per a nurse's suggestion, I now have her ID, medical cards and credit card. I made color copies and put those into the wallet yesterday, probably not a day too soon. Please advise. The hide and seek "game" will escalate I am told. Is she doing this on purpose to get me to swing by and look for it, therefore spending more time with her or what? Mom is at a moderate stage now having been diagnosed two years ago with Alzheimer's. She is in an assisted living building and functioning okay with it. I am hoping she does not accuse an employee or neighbor of stealing, etc. Please advise.
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Jul 11, 2016 - 07:39 AM

I don't know if this might help, but what if you get one of those key locator things which many people use, if they often misplace their keys. You might be able to hide it in some small corner of your mom's wallet, without letting her know that you've done it. The next time she loses her wallet, you can stop by quickly and magically find it and spend your saved time by visiting her in a stressless atmosphere! I hope that this helps.

As a senior, myself, with two daughters & two grandsons, one living 5 minutes away and the other living 30 minutes away, I am very lonely because I never see my grandkids & their mom and rarely see my closest daughter because they say that they don't have the time to stop by. Since your mom has Alzheimer's, your time to visit with the mom that you know & love may be limited and you may lose her, mentally, much sooner than you expect. Cherish your mom and the time that she has left because, once she's gone either ohysically or mentally, you won't be able to get her back. I was my mom's caregiver for 17 years, ever since my dad died, and she also developed Alzheimer's. Near the end of her life, it greatly disturbed my two brothers, who rarely visited with our mom, that our mom no longer recognized them, but never forgot who I was. Now, I don't know your situation and I apologize if I sound "preachy." That is not my intent. But even a 15 minute visit from my children would mean the world to me and I'm sure that it would be the same for your mom. So, if you could work a short visit with your mom into your regular schedule, I'm sure that your mom would love it and she might even stop losing her wallet. God bless you for watching over your mom.


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By indyj1s on Jul 11, 2016 - 07:39 PM | Like (0)  |  Report

Wonderful idea, Agill1948!!! ...and I understand what you mean about visiting my Mom often. It breaks my heart but there are frequently moments that leave me laughing with tears rolling down my face: Recently, I showed up to find her bundled in winter clothes during 90 degree weather. She told me the handyman had replaced light bulbs but they were not bright. ...she was wearinf aunglasses. Another day, I get a frantic phone call that she had missed Christmas and did not have any gifts at her place. Then I heard the ads for Christmas in July on the Hallmark channel.... Life is good.

By agill1948 on Jul 11, 2016 - 08:06 PM | Like (0)  |  Report

Hi indyj1s,

Thanks for understanding my suggestion about visiting your mom. It sounds like she's a handful! My mom is gone for almost 6 years, now. I just wish that they had telephone service to heaven! I miss her terribly, even though she drove me crazy sometimes, too! Well, it was nice chatting with you! The best of luck to you and your family.

By nikkipals on Jul 13, 2016 - 12:30 PM | Like (0)  |  Report

She is not doing this on purpose.
She is putting her wallet in a safe place then forgets where she put it.
If you can try to have her place the wallet in a basket by the door or in the seat basket of her walker (if she uses one) then it should be in the same place all the time. Not that she will remember where it is...;)
If the wallet is a bright color she might be able to find it easier so next time you have to replace it look for a bright one or even a child's one with beads, glitter, characters or other "gaudy" things so it is more likely to stand out when someone is looking for it.

By indyj1s on Jul 13, 2016 - 01:43 PM | Like (0)  |  Report

Another good idea...thank you!!!!!

By indyj1s on Jul 16, 2016 - 03:49 AM | Like (0)  |  Report

I was "a day late" but I did buy two TILES (Lowe's for $21+ each) and applied one each to Mom's wallet and keys. Yup, she told me she had a problem...that she had lost her keys. Of course, she had moved her wallet, too. That I found, first shot. The keys took me several rounds of her apartment. Found them in the pocket of one of her winter jackets. Made no sense to me! Anyways, with the tile, I can hit the app button here at home and It will begin to chirp/sing without me even being at the assisted living building. At least, it shouldcut down on some of my time! Meanwhile, do not wait on your parent to begin the hiding gsme!!!w

By agill1948 on Jul 16, 2016 - 08:48 AM | Like (0)  |  Report

Hi indyj1s, I'm so excited to hear that you used my idea and that it worked! I hope that your success continues. I also hope that she can't take the tile off! :) LOL!

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