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Jul 11, 2016 - 05:24 PM
I've actually been getting some therapy myself and am learning to better recognize my needs and to set boundaries to have my needs met. I'm recognizing that I can only give so much and that my well-being is as important as hers. I'm in the process of moving her into an assisted living dementia care facility. In my mom's case, I had to go through the process of getting her on Medicaid and then do research as to what facilities would be appropriate for her and would accept Medicaid.
I suggest you do some research and locate a place that might be suitable for her. There are social workers who specialize in elder care who may be able to advise you. Check with your senior center in your area, or search online for senior resources. Healthcare organizations can also refer people to such social workers.
Do you have power of attorney for her? If you don't I would suggest you talk with your mom about granting you power of attorney, so you can manage her affairs for her, and meet with an eldercare lawyer who can do the paperwork for you as well as handle a Will if need be.
I did this with my mom when she was beginning to develop dementia and I'm so glad I did.
I also pray a lot and ask God to guide me to the best solutions for the two of us. God is good and has help me to find solutions.
Best to you in your difficult situation.