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Dementia memory care for my mother?

My mother is 70 years old. She is prone to dementia from last year. Since two year I am taking her care. But now days I have busy schedule due to my work. I am going to live away from home for work so I am confused how I take care of my mother. My friends suggested me about best memory care home, t his offers excellent facilities to its residents but my problem is that I cannot afford it. I want a hep to choose affordable memory care home. Can anyone help me to come out of this problem.
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Jun 01, 2016 - 08:08 AM

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By tedm on Jun 05, 2016 - 11:57 AM | Like (0)  |  Report

You should not use your own money to care for your mother. Ever! She would not want you sacrificing your future for her and if you do that you will just be a burden on someone else later on. You have to come to terms that she didn't save enough money for this kind of private care and she can't go into it because of her own financial decisions not because of your financial decisions. You will basically need to take what money she has - including equity in her home if she has one - and spend all of it on care for her in your home - and once that is exhausted she will go on Medicaid and they will place her somewhere.

This is a very difficult choice to make because we all want to help our parents but the reality is that this kind of situation is exactly why Medicaid was created. We decided a long time ago we weren't going to toss seniors out into the street when they were old and penniless. However we didn't decide that if they were penniless they would get the best place that exists for them.

In summary remember that when you look back after she is gone, nothing you spent money on for her you will remember. You will only remember the time that you spent with her. No amount of money reverses the effects of aging.

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