Apr 28, 2016 - 11:31 AM
May 11, 2016 - 07:49 AM
Mr. Nolan provided a good answer. I will give you a couple of options that are last resort in nature and hope you do not have to resort to either of them.
Thank you for caring enough about both parents to seek some help with the situation.
In answer to question about putting her in a facility without his approval: you can contract with the facility and you can access her/their money to pay the facility but you cannot force her to stay there. If she is willing but he is not, I doubt it would work but it might.
The first option: Part of this you should do quickly. You have power of attorney that should allow you complete access to her/their money. You can pay the current care-givers and keep them coming. If you think your father might revoke the power of attorney you could go take a large sum of money and place it into another account with only your name and continue to pay the care-givers. You should continue to pay them now. The hard option would be to take almost all the money and put in a new account. If you control all the money you might get him to listen/agree.
The second option: File for guardianship of your mother. If you are appointed guardian you would have the authority to place her in a facility. It appears that a guardianship is needed. Your father is technically neglecting her to the point that it is a health and safety problem for her. If he cannot see that problem I suggest you seek guardianship for both. Seek the assistance of an elder law attorney in your area.
These are drastic options but you are nearly out of other options.