Mar 23, 2016 - 09:15 AM
Mar 30, 2016 - 05:20 PM
It sounds like all of you are under significant stress and in a repeating cycle of crisis, with safety and health concerns to address.
There are two resources you may wish to use, depending on your husband’s capacity to participate. If he is able to converse, even for short periods of lucidity, a mediator specializing in elder/adult family mediation could facilitate conversations with him, you, and his mother. Mediation provides a safe, calm place and an impartial professional to help you talk through the issues each of you is facing, explore options for your husband’s health care and living situation, and reach agreement on a plan and next steps. Separately, consider meeting with an elder attorney who can help you understand the legal and financial issues ahead, as well as options for changing decision-making authority in the future.
Best to you all through this difficult transition.