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What happens to me if grandma dies while under my care?

Grandma is refusing to take her meds or eat more than a few bites of toast a day. I'm taking care of her as best I can because I'm the only family she has but I don't know what to do. She says the meds make her feel worse and that she just isn't hungry. I love her but I can't get her to eat or take her meds and I don't want to go to jail if she dies, I'm only 25 and am in over my head.
Status: Open    Mar 03, 2016 - 07:43 AM

Elder Law, Caregiving

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Mar 09, 2016 - 09:13 PM

Changes in eating habbits is very normal for patients with dementia and very normal. I would advise talking with her doctor to see what additional resources they have to better help you help her. Please see the link below for additional tips related to eating and nutrition.


Mar 11, 2016 - 01:51 PM

There shouldn’t be any reason for someone to think that you have neglected or abused your grandmother, especially if you are keeping in contact with your grandmother’s primary provider. They usually will document your grandmother’s behavior. It also would be wise for you to document her situation and her responses. Her behavior is not uncommon.

It might be helpful to ask her primary provider if some Home Health visits could be ordered. They would be able to come into your home to assess the situation and make suggestions for providing some nourishment that your grandmother might accept. Her primary provider might also want to reevaluate her medications to see if they are all necessary.

There are online sites for caregivers where they share ideas about how they have handled similar situations. You might want to check out one or two of those sites. If nothing else, it will give you the assurance that you are not the only one dealing with this situation.

You can be proud of yourself for being there for your grandmother.
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