How do I deal with mother who hears or sees people come into her apartment?
My mother is 89 and diagnosed with moderate to severe dementia. After 11 years with my husband and me, she moved into an independent living facility. She is in terrific health physically and takes no medication, even though her doctor recommended Celexa for her depression ("I am NOT crazy!"). In the last few years, she has begun hiding her things and swears they were taken. I go find them and all is okay. In the last month though, she hears and sees people come into the apt. and steal from her. She goes to the office and reports it, then calls me crying that she is scared when they come in. It's a daily occurrence. In the last 2weeks, she has lost 2 telephones, the keys to her apt, as well as her cash, drivers license, and her debit card and this REALLY happened-I can't find them anywhere! The office thinks she brings them to the dining room and forgets them. I have tried to keep her calm but it's not working. She refuses to go to the doctor because that's where she was told she had dementia and she doesn't believe her. She lives an hour away and it's hard to drop things and go searching when she "gets robbed" in the night. She likes where she lives, except for seeing people come into her apt. Should I consider assisted living, which costs more than her income? I'm mentally exhausted and my sister can't help because she lives in Europe.
Status: Open Feb 06, 2016 - 05:36 PM