Jan 27, 2016 - 10:18 AM
I am very sorry for your loss. These situations are so difficult and sad. You should explore whether your state has a grandparent visitation statute. We had one in Alabama, but it was recently invalidated in the courts (meaning there are no rights for grandparents in our state). From a practical perspective, forced visitation does not do a lot to help the future relationship. Perhaps there are ways to demonstrate to your daughter-in-law that a relationship with you can be useful and beneficial to her. For example, you could open the door by saying you want to provide for your grandchildren in your estate plan, leaving them any share that would have otherwise passed to your son. A continued relationship is in the best interest of your grandkids, but it sounds like their mother is not in a place where she can see that right now so another approach might be more fruitful.