How do we get our father to answer his phone and get messages?
Our father moved from an Independent Living community in Arizona to another independent living community in Ohio last May, in order to be nearer to one of his children. He also gave up driving at the same time. Since his move to Ohio, he has become more and more dependent his local daughter and unwilling to do things that we could do easily before the move, such as change his own sheets, use the microwave, etc. He also refuses to retrieve phone messages from his children and from health care providers who are trying to reach him. This has expanded to the point that he often just does not answer the phone at all. He does have caller ID. He expects that callers should keep calling him in order to reach him. He has stated that if doctors need to reach him, they should come to the community where he lives and leave a paper message for him. He has been given training on how to retrieve his messages by the staff in the community and by his children. He has typed up notes that walk him through the process should he forget. And his children have expresses how important it is for him to use this resource. Nevertheless he refuses to retrieve messages, and he appears to be screening calls. He also insists that his daughter has to travel 40 minutes to his community to retrieve the messages that show up on the alert on his phone screen. She says she has tried everything she can think of to persuade him to change his mind. Obviously, this is a control issue, and it is affecting communication with family and with his health care providers in a negative way.
Status: Open Jan 21, 2016 - 02:09 PM