Jan 23, 2016 - 05:39 AM
Ok now that I have your safety off my mind...
If it is just the Doctor that you can not get him to go to maybe it would be a good idea not to tell him that he has a visit scheduled and just tell him you are going out. The Doctor appointment could be the first stop then have a nice lunch or go to a movie what ever he would enjoy.
If you are with him at home you might want to get some help in. It is very possible that he will follow some instructions from someone else. And having another voice if he gets frustrated may help defuse his anger.
By the way I almost could have written this...My husband is in pretty good health, We have been together over 30 years, He is 10 years older than I am, He has not called me by name in 6 years..so I do not know if he knows I am his wife. But he does know that I am a safe person, that I help him and that he can trust me. But I have also said if he were to become violent I would have no option but to place him. He does not have a violent bone in his body but it is not him that would become violent it is the disease that has ravaged his mind that would make him do something like that.
You need to think of yourself and how you can best care for him and if that means placing him for his safety and yours that is the best way you can care for him.