Jan 20, 2016 - 07:48 AM
I experienced the same thing with my father who had dementia. While at the doctor's office the doctor would face me and talk in the third person about dad. Or, the doctor would talk in euphemisms about something that was wrong instead of saying "cancer." What worked for me is when I said, "He's the boss - I'm just here for support." I would shift and face my father and not the doctor. I would ask my dad, "Do you have any more questions?" or "Dad, do you think...." to get any questions I had to the doctor. I didn't directly interface, in other words, with the doctor. Believe me, the doctor got the idea good and fast -- and no problems after that! And, dad sat up a little straighter and was a bit more interested and involved!