Jan 13, 2016 - 02:16 PM
Jan 15, 2016 - 01:44 PM
Since your mom is under hospice care, you may want to start with the hospice staff. Discuss the issue with the case manager and see what she or he has to suggest. It sounds like your dad could use some help dealing with your mom’s situation. Frequently, the caregiver becomes frightened if the patient is experiencing distress. They feel like they are responsible for the patient’s distress and need to do something about it.
It might help your dad to understand what could happen to your mom, if he calls 911 and they take her to the hospital. If he gives the impression that she has changed her mind about the DNR, the paramedics and hospital will have to provide full medical measures. You might want to encourage your dad, whenever he is tempted to call 911, to call the hospice case manager, instead.
While you could discuss the situation with your local paramedic services, the case manager might be a better person to talk with them.
Hospice has a full array of services to help your mom, dad and other family members. Besides medical and nursing, these services include spiritual, legal and emotional support. One of these services might be a good option to provide help for your dad. The more your dad understands what to expect as your mom approaches death and things he can do to help support her, he may feel more comfortable with the situation.
I wish you and your family well during such an important time for your mom, dad and family.
Jan 26, 2016 - 10:56 AM