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How do I talk to my elderly mom about giving up certain activities?

Mom doesn't want to give up driving or taking the stairs all together, in case she 'has to do this sometime'. Granted, she needs to be able to go to the basement during a tornado warning, but I live next door to her, and don't work, so driving her anywhere is easy for me. She has restricted her driving to lower traffic environments, but even that makes her very nervous. How do I talk to her about this?
Status: Open    Jan 04, 2016 - 07:01 AM

Caregiving, Senior Health & Nutrition

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Jan 05, 2016 - 10:18 AM

An honest conversation is usually the best approach, and before you begin, you should commit to leaving emotions out of the discussion. Express care and concern, with valid reasoning to back up your worries. Especially, try to avoid sounding condescending or disrespectful, just stick with your facts. Try starting with just one item first, such as the driving, and be patient. You may might share that allowing you to be more invovled in her daily life would be something you would really enjoy. Once you've won her over with the first item, give her time to become comfortable with the arrangement, and then move to the next issue. It would be surprising if one conversation broke down all the objections, but be patient and don't give up.


Jan 10, 2016 - 09:13 AM

Ask her doctor to have her driver's license cancelled. My wife's doctor did that and driving is a thing of the past.
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