Jan 05, 2016 - 10:17 AM
- Bringing in outside caregivers for respite;
- Entering into a care agreement with your mother to provide pay for the work you are doing;
- Creating an enforceable right for you and your spouse to stay in the property in the event your mother needs to go to a nursing home; and
- Arranging a schedule with your siblings so they know when are appropriate times to visit.
Jan 06, 2016 - 07:55 AM
The good news is that if you live with her for two years and your care keeps her out of a nursing home your mother can deed you her house without penalty from Medicaid. Make sure you have medical records to show she needs constant care and records to show that you are living there. Check with a local elder law attorney to confirm your states requirements on this.
As to the drop-ins who stay over the suggestion to thank them for the assistance leave for a while is the best. If they are truly there to visit it will be expected if there just to get out of town it will hasten the departure.