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How can I get mom and dad to sell their home and move into something smaller?

They have a huge 5 bedroom house (the same one myself and my six siblings grew up in) and they just can't keep it up. Most of the rooms never get used and their heating bills are high. They have 40 years of stuff accumulated and when I try to convince them to sort through some of it they keep putting me off. Dad finally relented and hired a neighbor kid to mow the yard but the flower gardens and trees are being neglected. My sister is the only one in the same state but she has 3 kids, one of whom is severly disabled so her time is limited. When any of us visit for vacation my parents say they don't want to waste visiting time by doing chores even though we are very willing to do upkeep & deep cleaning.
Status: Open    Dec 04, 2015 - 09:52 PM


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Dec 30, 2015 - 07:20 PM


I have worked with many family members that have experienced this same thing! One thing to consider is that sometimes when family wants their parents to move, they feel like their independence is being taken away. Even though you may see it as practical, making them "clean out" the house is a huge transition for people and may make them feel like they are being forced to do something when they are not ready.

If you feel they cannot physically take care of the house and even though you are open to helping out, it might be a better angle to offer to pay for or see what services they qualify for such as a housekeeper, pruning the bushes/tree or snow removal, etc. That way, they won't feel like you are "wasting your time" and these tasks are getting done.

I feel that if they want to stay in their own home and pay the bills, why not! As long as they are safe and you can help them be as independent as possible, it can be a win-win situation.

Best of luck!
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