How do I get my dad to be realistic about his abilities?
I am a full time caregiver for my dad who has had a stroke and a recent heart attack. He has fallen a couple of times because he attempts things like shoveling snow or riding a bike with his grandkids. Luckily he has never seriously injured himself. Last week he decided he was going to clean our gutters. I tried to tell him he shouldn't be on a ladder or on the roof but he wouldn't listen. I also tried yelling at him to go back into the house but he was determined to be useful. I have never yelled at him before, but I was so scared he was going to fall, I yelled out of frustration. What should I have done? I thought about calling the police or 911, but it wasn't an actual emergency. Am I underestimating his abilities or is he overestimating them? He did successfully clean the gutters without a problem although he was stiff and sore for a few days after.
Status: Open Dec 19, 2015 - 12:24 PM
Caregiving, Senior Health & Nutrition