Jan 27, 2016 - 08:09 AM
My father had dementia and often would become paranoid or angry. He would lash out at me regarding his ex-wife, my mother, who passed away 15 years earlier, thinking he was still married and she was alive. At first, I'd try to correct him and let him know that they were divorced and she had passed years ago. This, of course, was a LOGICAL response to an IRRATIONAL point of view. He would either relive the divorce and her death, which was so sad for him, or argue that it wasn't true. I learned to just LISTEN and FEEL what he was saying. I'd nod and ask him to explain more. I'd say things like, "Dad, I can understand why you're mad..." or "That must feel horrible..." or "How can I help..." He would fairly quickly run out of things to say and we'd move on to another topic. (I am not a medical professional).