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How do I keep my mother calm when my husband comes home?

My mom has dementia and lives with us, as her dementia has progressed it takes her longer to recognize people. When my husband comes home from work she doesn't always immediately recognize him and it scares her. My husband says, rightly so, it is his own house, he shouldn't have to yell out that it's him whenever he comes home from work. Any suggestions that will please both of them?
Status: Open    Dec 19, 2015 - 03:35 AM


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Mar 04, 2016 - 10:49 AM

You may already have an organized schedule of activities to keep your mother active and oriented. How about including, at a time just before you expect your husband to arrive home, reminding your mom that he will be coming home soon and showing her a picture of you husband to remind her what he looks like. You might also try to be there with her when he does arrive, so she does not feel vulnerable and help her remember who he is.
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By hazelhedge on Sep 10, 2016 - 10:20 AM | Like (0)  |  Report

Calling out and identifying himself when he arrives does not seem like a burdensome thing to ask of your husband. If he does not want to do it, it makes me think he is resentful or unhappy about your mom being there. It would be a good idea to sit down and ask him how this is affecting him.

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