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Why would I consider a retirement residence?

I'm happy living in my own home. What are the advantages to someone who is good health, enjoys cooking but no longer can do yard work. Seems like it would be cheaper to hire a teenager to mow and stay in my own home. My kids are arguing otherwise.
Status: Open    Dec 09, 2015 - 07:06 AM

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Dec 15, 2015 - 11:13 AM

While it may seem a little counterintuitive, your good health will allow you to take full advantage of all of the benefits offered at a hospitality-focused retirement community. For some, the decision to move to a retirement community signals a lack of independence. However, one of the most common sentiments we hear from our residents is, "I wish I would have moved earlier."

Retirement communities offer a wide variety of services and amenities. Access to restaurant-style dining and a lack of yardwork are just a couple of the benefits. For many residents, it is the availalbility of social interaction, fun activities, and being surrounded by friends and neighbors that make the experience truly enjoyable.

Residents that choose to live in a retirement community no longer have to worry about the chores of home ownership. They are able to visit family and friends without having to worry about who will look after their home.

While many residents are still able to, and enjoy, preparing their own meals, they have access to outstanding restaurants in their communities for those times they just don't feel like cooking.

Transportation services are also provided. Many communities provide group transportation for activities and shopping as well as private transportation to anywhere you would like to go.

However, it's the social interaction that makes community living so great. If you want to enjoy some quiet time reading a book or watching a movie, great. You have your own beautiful apartment. For the times you would like to play a game of cards or just chat with friends, there is always something happening right outside your apartment door.

I would encourage you to visit a few local communities. Have a meal. Ask for an activity calendar. Talk to a few residents. You might be surprised at how much is going on at these communities. Good luck!

Dec 16, 2015 - 12:11 PM

Maybe You Can Convince Your Kids To Let You Stay

While there are good reasons to go to a retirement residence, there are also good reasons to age in place. Not only can it be less expensive, but you may be healthier and happier in your own residence.

Being in my mid-50s and having had aging parents, I can empathasize with your adult children as well. The stress and worry that comes with wanting your aging parents to be okay is no less than the feelings you have when your children are growing up. The difference is that generally you are doing it at a distance and with virtual no control.

A new service call senior care auditing may be helpful for you and your children to negotiate a stay in your home. Basically, they want to know you are okay and whether you need help or care. If they knew this from an objective, third party (i.e. not you), then they'd probably lay off, stop arguing, and simply be your kids again.

Basically, the senior care auditor will visit you on a prescribed day within a four hour window. They'll walk around and make sure the lawn is taken care of, your residence is being maintained, that your appliances work, that your home is clean and clutter free, that you have food and beverages available, and that you are okay.


Dec 21, 2015 - 11:02 AM

Have you discussed with your kids, what are their concerns? If it is your safety because you are living alone, you have different options to reassure them. You could set up a plan to check in with one of them everyday. A friend of mine makes sure that she always carries her phone with her. Also, there are several types of monitoring systems that can be purchased.
Best wishes in choosing the situation that is best for you and still reassure your children.



Dec 13, 2015 - 03:37 PM

I am 75, divorced and mostly happily living alone in my own home in a rural part of New Hampshire though just a few miles from town and shopping, doctors, hospital, etc. I now pay for yard care and snow removal, and occasional house cleaning. Why am I taking steps to move to a retirement community? Now that I'm retired, I have more time to visit with family more than before. But my kids (3) and grands (5) live busy lives and traveling to see each other is increasingly difficult due to their busy schedules and my declining desire and ability to drive long distances. My remaining pets are two dogs, so public transportation is out of the question. Moving closer to all 3 families, to an active and engaged retirement community, seems a good compromise to me. I'll have my own life, without feeling like so much of a (social) burden. I'll be safe and have immediate emergency medical care when necessary. I believe my kids will worry less about me, and feel less obligated to come see me because they'll know I'm active and busy... and safe. It makes for more honest and spontaneous relationships, I think. As it turns out, my monthly expenses will be reduced... AND, mostly, I will have more time to do the things I love to do, instead of keeping up a house that's way too big for me. I can't wait to explore a new area, check out the local kayaking and hiking, and attend more cultural events (thanks to provided transportation or public transportation).

Source: Belinda Phillips, Thornton, NH

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