Dec 27, 2015 - 05:06 PM
The psychiatric referral is an excellent suggestion. My 90 year-old mother has lived with my husband and I for the last 7 years and sounds so much like your father. My mother, however, has a mental illness that predates her elder years and complicates her aging. When she suffered from recurring urinary tract infections and falls that resulted in ER trips, we explained the problems we were having with keeping my mother clean, etc. One of the last trips to the ER resulted in her admission to a 2-week inpatient psychiatric behavioral ward. With strict rules about sleep hygiene, social activity, and medication management, we learned how to implement these standards in our home for her health and safety. We succeeded in getting my mother to participate in Adult Day Care three times a week, as well as her acceptance of in-home care on the remaining days. We have 3 large dogs, a horse, a goat, and a cat, but we have in-home caregivers that provide excellent care. Please don't be afraid to ask for help using the psychiatric route. We also, with the help of an elder law attorney, got Medicaid approved for my mother, which pays for Adult Day Care and a personal attendant during the week. Respite care is also available through the Adult Day Care that we use and is paid by Medicaid. The logistics to get the care that is needed can be overwhelming, but please know there is help available. Please let me know if you think I can help in any way.