Oct 12, 2015 - 11:11 AM
I want you to look at this in two parts. What do you believe would be best for your wife and what is best for you as a family caregiver. Caring for a loved one is a lot of work and without support you can become run down. If you enjoy going to Church and that is a big part of your life you need to think about if you are able to take her with you or would this mean that you couldn’t go.
There are agencies called private duty that can help you with caring for your wife at home. You don’t have to utilize them all day but it would be a good suggestion that you have someone to help or to be there when you are unable to. This would include going to the store or out with friends. Family caregivers sometimes become very isolated when caring for someone with Dementia because they don’t feel comfortable taking that loved one with them to some or all events.
Contacting the local Alzheimer’s association could be helpful to gather resources to help bring your wife home. Everyone is a little different if your wife is like most you need to think of having the same schedule with the same people helping each day or week. A schedule of days you are planning on going out of the home would help set a schedule for someone to help you in the home. If you are able to take her with you I would still suggest that you make time for yourself. We have a family that we have cared for almost 5 years now that the husband goes out golfing or to lunch with friends once a week. He requires no other assistance than just a 4-8 hour respite day for himself. Starting with the local Alzheimer’s Association would be a great start for finding resources or google private duty agencies in your area. Most of them have a 3-4 hour min however you can find those that will just come out for 1-2 hours if that is all your require.