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Mom is in assisted living, are outings OK?

My Mom has dementia which seems to be accelerating since my Dad died 5 months ago. She now lives in assisted living. Is it OK to take my Mom for outings from her assisted living (such as lunch or dinner out) or is it better to keep her there all the time so that she gets more used to her new surroundings and they become more familiar and maybe make her less confused? She's not happy there and comments on what a relief it is to get out.
Status: Open    Oct 07, 2015 - 07:25 AM

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Oct 07, 2015 - 10:27 AM

Outings would be a great idea for your mom and may help with her anxiety to adjust to her new home. If there is someplace with which she is familiar, it may also provide some stimulation to recall past experiences that she may want to share. There is no harm in trying, and if you see positive results it's likely to carry over into her overall demeanor. Lastly, since consistent routine becomes important with dementa, some regularity in schedule would be of great benefit.

Nov 21, 2015 - 06:53 AM

Absolutely!! But don't think every outing has to be spectacular. Often, what is easy for you -- shopping, dinners, events, etc. -- can wear them out or overwhelm them.

Taking simple drives, stopping for a soda, going to a grocery store just to pick up their favorite cookies, or sitting in a park can make a world of difference to a senior. Sights, sounds, and feelings that they don't have in the community can help them adjust, remember, and be happy. You'll find that these things also open the door for communication. But, if not, it's just nice to sit as well.


Oct 18, 2015 - 09:09 AM

My Mama does better with frequent visits, drives, and shopping trips with me (daughter). It depends on the person and how advanced the dementia is.. Sitting all day is extremely boring. A walk through a large Walmart provides a good bit of exercise for a senior. It is hard to get her back in the bldg. , but gradually she's recognizing it as someplace that's a bit familiar. When she asks, " Do you want me to stay in the car?" I tell her i need her to take something in for me, usually some clothes we picked up at Goodwill, or some fruit for her snacks.
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