Jul 21, 2015 - 04:04 PM
Devising a plan is a good idea. It might be a good idea over the next few days to try and get an idea when he is having a bowel movement that you can station yourself outside the bathroom to 'help.' Offering him 'the new roll of toilet paper you needed to put in the bathroom' so he can use it, while verbally cueing him with "Here is some toilet paper (tearing off the amount that would be useful)" and verbally prompting him to use it while busying yourself with whatever else in the bathroom to make it appear as if you just 'stopped in' to do something for yourself. Doing the same with soap when it's time to wash hands. "Here is the soap to wash your hands, I just refilled the bottle for you....." Replacing the real towels with disposable towels may help with the necessary laundry created when he uses real towels to clean up any mess he may have made.
It sounds like he has a strong desire to be independent in the bathroom but with some creative thinking, and helpful guidance, it sounds like you might be able to eliminate some of the mess he may create if left to his own devices.
Hope that is helpful!
Aug 26, 2015 - 01:30 PM
Try getting a colored one, red, black something that will stand out. This way he can see it easily. (at this point it really does not matter if the color will "clash" with your bathroom colors)
While he wants to remain independent you might have to start using the bathroom when he does. Bring in some towels, fix your hair, what ever excuse you can come up with. (If you have been married for a while I am sure that you are used to walking in on each other or even leaving the bathroom door open!) Keep an eye on him, hand him toilet paper if necessary then wash up together.
You may be getting close to the time where you are going to have to be much more involved in his toileting.