Jun 19, 2015 - 12:38 PM
A situation like this is easier if all of the family members are cooperative and their main concern is for your mother. Keep in mind, later on, your mom may need to use the income from the sale of her property. If your mother is still mentally able, she should be part of the decision making. It would be most effective, if you could get everyone together to have a family meeting. Although you are the POA, you will get better cooperation if you provide an opportunity for everyone give their input. Of course, this depends upon everyone’s cooperation. If some of the family members are not able to meet together, it sounds like your idea to asking them to identify what they wish to have, would be good. You also might want to follow up with a written copy of the final decisions to be given to everyone. However, I realize that will depend upon the dynamics within your family. For sure, I recommend that you keep copies of everyone’s input and the final decisions.
This question reminds me of when my mother died and also when I was POA for my cousin.When my cousin needed to downsize, she decided what she wanted to continue using, then we picked out anything that she wanted to be given to a particular person. I then notified family members and close friends that any other items of value, could be purchased. Everything else was sold in patio and estate sales. I kept my cousin informed about everything that was occurring, so she didn’t feel ‘left out’. With my mother’s estate, we paid for any large or valuable items that we wanted. That money went into the estate.
I hope that this might give you some ideas on how to proceed. Every family and situation is different, so you need to make your decisions accordingly. As POA, you may have to make some hard decisions. I think that if you keep in mind what would be in the best interest for your mother, you will probably be able to feel good about your decisions.
Sep 30, 2015 - 12:37 PM