Jul 14, 2015 - 02:22 PM
Have you tried to have a cup of coffee with your Aunt when she isn't being the immediate caregiver? Being a caregiver can be one of the toughest jobs out there and compound that for someone with memory loss and I always feel like it adds another element of surprise at every corner. Being the optomist I wonder if she is feeling stressed and has taken on this caregiver role out of obligation and isn't equipped both emotionally and other to be a caregiver. Does your Grandmother wake often at night? If you aren't sure ask your Aunt. Maybe she is caregiving sleep deprived. Often caring for someone with memory loss can equate for caring for a newborn, awake at odd hours, mobile so that adds a whole other component for fear of wandering, etc. I would suggest a heart to heart with your Aunt when your Grandma is with one of your Uncles and start the conversation with "How is it taking care of Grandma? What is her daily or nightly routine like?" Possibly offering to help at one of the high-stress times she points out will allow for more dialogue with your Uncles about what you see. Not to be discriminative, but males and females care for their loved ones differently in most cases.