Jun 09, 2015 - 10:15 AM
First, if the decor is a really grating issue, I would recommend researching newer communities in your area (if there any available). There is a shift away from the older styles and the newer communities generally favor clean lines and some combination of balanced colors. Fewer flowers to be found, at least. You will always find some form of paisley on furniture because busy patterns hide stains.
Second, the decor is the surface of the community. I recommend writing yourself a numbered list of priorities as you search for senior living options. It is reasonable for the decor to be a priority, but balance the pink flowers and dainty furniture with the quality of care that your dad will be receiving. I always recommend trying before you buy and my list would always highly rate: quality of care and food, availability of transportation, sights and smells, etc. For a full list of priorities/questions, take a look at http://www.aplaceformom.com/senior-care-resources/articles/assisted-living-resi
I hope you find the perfect community for your dad!
Oh, and PS - most activities will always be geared toward women simply because there are more women. However, you ABSOLUTELY should find a community where the activities director and administrator are willing to cater a program to your dad's interests (within reason). If they are unwilling to create a simple card game - maybe one where they take a small bit of time to play a one-on-one game with your dad, you may find that there are more issues below the surface.