Jul 20, 2015 - 08:34 AM
The TIAs could have caused some brain damage or she may have dementia. What does your Mom’s doctor say? Or does the doctor know about what is happening? There are medications and therapies that can help, depending upon what is causing these problems. Sounds like your Mom might need further medical evaluation and intervention.
Since your Dad does not want to place your Mom, maybe you can hire some help to assist him at home. If your Mom’s TIAs are recent, she may be eligible for some home health visits to access the situation and help you Dad problem solve the situation.
I have seen some facilities that have more than one level of care, such as independent and assisted living. I have known couples, like your parents, that have moved there together, so the healthy spouses can receive assistance caring for their loved ones. In those cases, the families that I knew were very pleased with the results.
In the meantime, be there to support your Dad. You may have to give him some time to come around to realizing that it may be time to make some changes.