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Jan 10, 2017 - 01:40 PM
Try having a caring conversation with your Father to ask if this incident ever happened or if your Mother may have thought so at one point. A person with Alzheimer's and other dementias can spin a fantastic story out of the slightest (tiniest) kernel of truth. Once you have a handle on how this may have started your can then create fiblets to address it. You may tell your Father to apologize to your Mother about the indiscretion and then tell her that the lady has moved away to love with her daughter. Since she is bedridden, there is little chance your Mother will see her. Tell your Father to continually reassure her that he loves her and that he would never do it again.
As they move backward in time they relive old traumas in their lives. This is likely what is happening to your Mother. When she thinks that the lady is in the house, instead of telling her that she is not there, why not shoo her out of the house (your Father included). Some of her agitation may be coming from the fact that no one believes her and ignores her feelings.
It takes a bit of trial and error, but once you can identify the nugget of truth, you can start to work around it.
I wish you luck!