Aug 03, 2015 - 08:26 AM
Yes that is hard to see. I think that some people feel uncomfortable because they do not know how to act or what to say. Your siblings also may be having trouble dealing with changes that are occurring with their aunt.
I would suggest that you encourage your aunt’s friends to come, see her. It may help them feel more comfortable if you are present, at least, for their first visit. I know of one man who had Alzheimer’s, who had a group of close friends. One of those friends decided to get the rest of the group together for a visit. That meeting went so well, the group continued to visit him weekly until the day he died.
You could also emphasize that their visits can, also, help relieve you by helping keep your aunt occupied. You can help foster their visits by suggesting activities that your aunt enjoys, such as watching a movie.
If you haven’t already done so, I suggest that you check out the Alzheimer’s association (www.alz.org). I have found them to be very helpful by making practical suggestions for family and friends of people with dementia and Alzheimer’s.
I think that you and your sister should be commended for taking care of your aunt. I am sure that your aunt appreciates your help. I don’t think that you will regret your sacrifices.