May 23, 2015 - 04:32 PM
May 31, 2015 - 01:55 PM
Distraction is the best way I've seen to stop an unwanted or dangerous behaivior. When he is headed for the door, remind him that he "hasn't eaten breakfast yet" and have him sit down at the table. Bring him a small cup of juice or coffee, and maybe a newspaper. He will forget about leaving. Here's another one, tell him he has forgotten his briefcase/toolbox/sales charts (something job related) and have him wait by the TV while you "go fetch it for him". Or ask him "Could you please help me with this task/chore before you go?" and kind of set him off on that mission. Or even as simple as "No, it's Saturday. You don't have to go in today. You have the day off."
Besides upsetting him, arguing does not re-establish the facts. And if it does snap him back to our reality, it will only painfully remind him that he is losing his mind. Arguing will not teach him and tomorrow he will not remember anyway.
Making up these distractions is not lying. It is doing him a kindness. Don't get hung up on truthfulness, because it is all relative. His truth is different than the one that the rest of us live in. It's ok.
Source: watching staff in the nursing home deal with dementia residents