May 08, 2015 - 01:54 PM
You may find this article helpful as it addresses a few of the things you mentioned above. http://www.aplaceformom.com/senior-ca...
You may want to also schedule a visit with your dad's physician and review this with him/her as there may be something underlying, such as the onset of memory loss.
May 10, 2015 - 02:20 PM
If he has dementia decline in hygine is common. There are a lot of steps to taking a shower. If you think about all the little steps it can get confusing.
The sound of the water may be a bit of sensory overload for him.
The feel of the water pounding on him might be too much.
He may fear falling.
If you can get someone in to help it might be better for both of you. It takes the stress out of your hands, it is a professional that is trained to get people to do things that they often don't want to do.
When my husban was in Rehab I was "shocked" to learn that they only showered him 2 times a week. That is per state code. After talkign to a CNA about it she explained that as people age, are in decline the skin is more fragile and you don't want to remove the oils that protect the skin. This made me feel a bit better.
So back to your Dad.
Maybe 2 times a week would a goal that you could set that would make you feel better and not stress him out. But general cleaning when needed, handwashing, cleaning if he is soiled, deodorant and clean clothes every day.
Make the bathroom safe for him.
Get a bench for him to sit on. Anti scald device for the shower.
Oct 25, 2015 - 10:30 AM
Temperature change on the skin is a bit of a shock for anyone, but more so when elderly. Ther skin is thinner, more delicate. Make sure you get the temp. right ahead of time, and ask how it feels to them. I've found that mom likes less heat than I do. Also, with her being raised in the depression, she will not waste water, so I tell her I've already got the shower running. Also, that she is going somewhere where there will be people around. She will always go before a Dr. visit, and now that she's at assisted living where she sits with others, she's more cooperative. There's still some "I had one this morning, or last night", but I find that is usually when I wait until she's tired.
You also might pont out that there's risk of UTI's etc.if hygeine is not kept. , Bathing is more of a chore for them now. Once a day may not be realistic anymore. I try for every other day, but sometimes if she's tired, it's 3.