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Mortuary designation to answer mom's nursing facility requirement

Can you help me with steps to take long distance to meet my mom's nursing facility's demand for mortuary designation? They require that a mortuary be designated for them to call at end of life. It's a logical requirement; I just don't know where to start.
I live in another state. I have no familiarity with mortuary services in the San Diego, CA area. I have no familiarity with mortuaries.
I'm glad to learn. I'd like to know if there is a guide or something to help navigate the potential scams and pitfalls as I inquire for these services on her behalf via telephone and internet.

Thank you
Status: Open    Apr 13, 2015 - 07:37 AM

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Dec 07, 2015 - 12:57 PM

Having to come to grips with your mom's end of life can be nerve-racking, so I hope my checklist makes this a bit easier for you and anyone else reading this posting.

One thing to keep in mind is that funeral prices vary from one provider to the other, with no discernible reason for the price differentiation between services or merchandise. So it's important to comparison shop when deciding which provider to choose, and whenever possible, purchase funeral merchandise outside of the funeral home. This is the best way to avoid potential scams or unscrupulous providers.

1) Start with the Nursing Home

The first thing to do is ask the nursing facility for a list of funeral homes in the local area. In some cases, the information provided will include the funeral provider's general price list as well as information about their services.

2) Google Funeral Celebrant

Next, search Google for San Diego funeral celebrant or whichever locale you're seeking services. A funeral celebrant is a non-clerical person who advocates on behalf of the family to arrange and/or officiate funeral ceremonies. Celebrants usually can negotiate better prices or better funeral services than the family can negotiate directly.

3) Purchase Casket & Flowers Online

Finally, purchase the casket and flowers online either in advance or at the time of your mom's passing. Caskets are the most expensive line item on a funeral home contract, and since caskets are universal, there is no need to pay the funeral home's exorbitant markup for this standard item. There are companies which will deliver the casket and flowers to any funeral home you choose. This allows you to select a funeral provider or celebrant based on your comfort with their services while also knowing that you've saved money on your funeral merchandise.



Apr 25, 2015 - 03:40 PM

I suggest that you contact the administration at the facility where your Mom is and ask for a few recommendations. I am sure that they deal with several Funeral Homes and could give you information. Then call the ones that they give you and ask the questions you would like answered. Or next time you go visit your Mom ask the staff.
While you are visiting your Mom visit the Funeral Homes that you have talked to to get more of a personal feeling.
You could also contact one close to you and ask if there are any that they have worked with. I am sure that this is nothing new to them.


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