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Need advice on encouraging Dad to be more social.

Dad moved into assisted living a month ago and I know they have many activities that he used to enjoy but he spends most of his time in his apartment. How do I encourage him to join an outing or a poker game and make friends?
Status: Open    Mar 06, 2015 - 12:25 PM

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Mar 16, 2015 - 07:41 AM

First, I would communicate with wellness director, executive director and activities director about your concern. They may have some ideas on getting your dad more engaged. From a basic standpoint, I would recommend looking at the activities director taking a more active roll encouraging your father to be involved. Many seniors, especially those with memory loss, require cueing to activities beyond a simple request. There is a balance with every individual between overcoming activity objections while maintaining the dignity of your dad making his own decisions.

I would also recommend some creative problem solving for the situation. You know that the problem is that dad isn't going to activities and is self-isolating. What are the conditions? Does he have memory loss? Is he afraid to meet new people? Is he uncomfortable in large environments? Is he too independent for the activity? Once you have some reasonable conditions, then try to find some reasonable solutions to encourage your dad to be involved. Maybe it's a small group activity instead of a large one. Maybe it is introducing him to other men who he will be able to build a relationship with. Maybe it is encouraging him to be involved in an increasing number of activities, starting with just one a week. Take baby steps toward a solution and hopefully he will engage with the community soon!
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