Mar 06, 2015 - 03:44 PM
What you're describing is referred to as "hypersexuality" and it is not uncommon when dealing with dementia. It is a concern for every assisted living that deals with residents who have dementia. There is no real cure, but occasionally families and doctors pursue medications to alter behaviors.
Ultimately, you need to over-communicate with the nurse and administrator (executive director) about the care being provided and work together to create a plan of care to deal with the situation. If both adults are consenting and monogamous, you may choose to allow them to continue having a relationship. If the community or families are not comfortable with the relationship, then personal care should be increased to cue and escort both away from sharing a bed. This may mean having some activity available besides fornication to redirect the residents to. There will likely be an increase in care fees for the extraordinary circumstance, and it is likely that it will not be 100% effective. If hypersexuality becomes a concern beyond the level of care available at the assisted living, you may receive a notice that he requires a higher level of care.
Industry-wide, there are really no perfect answers to your dilemma. For further reading, I recommend: