Mar 01, 2015 - 04:37 PM
Mar 02, 2015 - 08:35 PM
I and my siblings have tried for years to help. We only end up getting very frustrated and angry. Nobody wants to even visit her anymore. My only solution has been to listen when she calls and not get upset at the awful things she says. I don't offer any advice because she won't take it. I don't try to solve her problems because she will sabotage the efforts I put in.
I recognize that she has walked away from our help. That is her decision. I can only offer an ear to listen when she calls. I know that one day I will receive an emergency call where I will have to go to pick up the pieces of the mess she has made.
I cannot allow myself to be drawn into her world that she has made miserable. It doesn't do anything for her and just makes me miserable. I just pray for her and try to help out from a distance. And I do keep my distance, because this kind of toxic relationship can bad news for me.
But it is important not to let your spirit be destroyed. Your love and life has to be given to yourself and your immediate family.
Try not to let guilt be your guide. Try to think logically and keep yourself going strong for your family.
Sep 14, 2015 - 11:50 AM
This may also help with her depression.
Once she is involved with a group she may be more willing to move to Independent/Assisted living if she knows some of the people and the activities she may realize that this could be interesting and not "put away".
Oct 11, 2015 - 12:08 AM