APFM Staff Answers
Feb 20, 2015 - 12:54 PM
Wendy, this is certainly a challenging situation and is made even more difficult when we understand the POA only gives you authority to enact what dad Wants ! You still cannot place him against his will.
If necessary you would have to work with a lawyer to petition for guardianship.
To do this, you will need proof from a medical professional who can verify dad is no longer mentally capable of making his own decisions. If the state declare him mentally incompetent, they will appoint a guardian (which can be a family member) to take over and make decisions for him, including placing him in secured memory care. Each decision with then have to go through the court to protect dad and to protect you should anyone challenge your decisions.
Short of the legal process, you may want to find and then work directly with a memory care assisted living community that can support you in finding ways to convince dad this is in his best interest. They are professionals with tremendous experience in working with helping seniors move in.