Feb 03, 2015 - 07:52 AM
You may be experiencing a form of “anticipatory grief”. This type of grief can set in as a person witnesses their loved one’s loss of independence, inability to manage daily living tasks, and awareness about end-of-life. Observing your mother’s failing health may be triggering anxiety and panic as you feel a loss of control and helplessness.
To reclaim a sense of power over what you can control, you may want to explore some positive actions.
· Search for either an online grief support group or one held regularly in your community.
· Seek therapy from a grief counselor who can identify coping techniques suitable for your personality and help you manage your symptoms.
· Read articles or a book on grief and loss. Knowledge about your sadness and associated anxiety might help in understanding your panicky reactions more fully.
· Use the time remaining with your mother to tie up loose ends in your relationship. Many people regret the things they left unsaid after a loved one passes unexpectedly, whereas you have a bit of time.
Ira Byock, physician and author of “Dying Well” suggests that family members and their dying loved one exchange the following words: I love you-I forgive you-Forgive me-Thank you.