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How can I stop my elderly parents from driving?

Status: Open    Jan 10, 2015 - 10:06 PM


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Aug 10, 2016 - 11:43 AM

Hello, This is a significant transition in terms of your parents' sense of freedom and independence. The article noted in the staff answer is a great place to start to choose the approach that you think will work best for your parents. If it's difficult to have this conversation with them or other family members, or if there are other matters related to their changing needs and abilities that really need to be discussed, consider a facilitated family meeting. A mediator who works with elders can provide a safe and calm place and guide the conversation. Mediators are impartial facilitators of YOUR decision-making process, making sure the elders' values and concerns for safety are all carefully considered. Even out-of town family members can participate on-line or by phone. Check in your area for a Mediation Association or search for local professionals at A Place For Mom or at the link below. Best wishes for a great conversation.


Aug 16, 2016 - 09:52 AM

Occasionally problems related to driving are signs of more advanced cognitive issues. For example, some individuals with dementia get "lost" when driving and can't remember normal roads and routes. In cases where there is a severe diminishment in capacity in conjunction with an inability to drive it may be necessary to have the individual declared incapacitated by a court. I would also suggest that the inidividual's estate planning documents may have language that triggers upon a physician declaration of incapacity. Depending on the documents in place a doctor's evaluation may be enough to provide further authority.

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Mar 26, 2015 - 02:01 PM

Thank you for your question! We have an article on the A Place for Mom blog on having the driving discussion with seniors that may be of interest to you. The link is:


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